I like your screen shot shows it is something to do.Although the warning should be put sidetabs, which may cause some errors in the use cases, and can lock in the IM window, entirely possible to Digsby, asked to be killed in the process.
OK I have updated to add the do not flash and mark as read options. Need more details about the show as mobile option before I add it such as what services it is for.
As to the do not flash option there is apparently a better option, cycle_unread_ims, that makes it use the default system settings but trying to think of the best way to describe this in my options. Any help is appreciated.